Thursday, March 10, 2011

What is being overweight really all about?

I was reading a post on another blog and it brought me to think about what is being overweight really all about?  Being overweight/obese is about so much more than having some extra pounds.  The extra pounds are a symptom of something else.  That 'something else' varies from person to person.  The extra pounds can be a sign that a person uses food as a coping strategy for dealing with emotions or stress.  The extra pounds could also be a sign that a person is not making healthy food choices or there could be a thyroid problem or a sign that we aren't putting ourselves on the 'list'.  What ever the reason it's tough being overweight.  It's tough on your joints and your body in general ( my knees ached before I lost the weight ).  For me the weight was a symptom of not being on the 'list' and I was using food as a coping strategy for dealing with emotions and conflict (in addition to making poor food choices - aka comfort food).

I've found that being overweight/obese can make a person 'invisible'.  Invisible?  Yes I said invisible.  Not a term most people think of when they think of someone who's obese.  For me being overweight was embarrassing.  Sitting in wicker furniture was out of the question.  Embarrassed to sit in a seat on an airplane. Embarrassed to not be able to fit properly on an amusement ride as a teen.  Feeling like I was passed over for not looking like a model person (normal).  I've noticed since losing this weight I've had more confidence in myself so perhaps I'm less invisible because I smile more?   Perhaps it's all in my head but I do notice that people treat me differently (not my friends but strangers).  I'm less invisible as people notice me more and I find others to be kind and helpful (more so than ever before). 

What makes me happy?
Not having the extra pounds physically dragging me down. 
Feeling confident.
Having a bright healthy future.

If you are overweight/obese and feeling unhappy in your life try to not look at the weight as 'the problem'.  From my experience just losing the weight doesn't make me happy.  It's dealing with all the issues around the fat that matter the most.  One effects the other and I've found until I started dealing with the issues I wasn't going to lose any weight.     

This time I'm keeping the pounds off.
No matter what...... Gulp

 

2 comments:

  1. perhaps people treat you differently because you allow them to.You are less invisible because You are allowing yourself to be visible. I believe that because I am fat people treat me differently because that is what I feel I deserve, I don't deserve to be treated as a thin beautiful person. Funny thing is,That thin beautiful person is most likely just as insecure as I but in other ways.The way we see ourselves and how we feel about ourselves is what we project outward thus what we allow people see or not see (in the case of wanting to be
    invisible because of our insecurity and shame.)......... Its not the others its ourselves.
    In a way you were right when you said perhaps its all in your head..it is !!! Dealing with our issues and fears is the only cure to obesity I believe.

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  2. Anonymous said...
    perhaps people treat you differently because you allow them to.

    Sonya: Very true on many levels BUT inherently I do think there are assumptions some people make about overweight/obese individuals that does effect how one is treated. I only allow the good treatment now (or I try).

    Anonymous said...
    You are less invisible because You are allowing yourself to be visible.

    Sonya: Yes I am now less 'invisible'. I'm happier and I feel more comfortable in my own skin (even the excess :-). There was allot of fat to hide behind before. Now I'm proud of who I am and what I stand for (whatever that means - still figuring that one out). Issues will always come up but it's learning how to deal with the issues and emotions constructively instead of via stuffing it down with food.

    Anonymous said...
    I believe that because I am fat people treat me differently because that is what I feel I deserve, I don't deserve to be treated as a thin beautiful person. Funny thing is,That thin beautiful person is most likely just as insecure as I but in other ways.

    The way we see ourselves and how we feel about ourselves is what we project outward thus what we allow people see or not see (in the case of wanting to be invisible because of our insecurity and shame.)......... Its not the others its ourselves.

    Sonya: I couldn't agree more! What a person holds to be true about themselves is outwardly projected even if only subconsciously. The way to change is all in the mind. I must say that has been the hardest part for me.

    Anonymous said...
    In a way you were right when you said perhaps its all in your head..it is !!! Dealing with our issues and fears is the only cure to obesity I believe.

    Sonya: I think dealing with issues surely plays a big role. There are so many different factors that play into losing weight or being healthy that's why it's so hard for everyone.

    Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts!

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