Friday, February 24, 2012

Weight Loss and Toxic Relationships

Don't be a hater. Be a doer.


I've spent a lot of time in this process not just losing weight but rebuilding my life.  Along the way I've learned to shed the relationships with people who are toxic.  What do I mean by toxic?  People who bring you down and second guess your definition of success.  Instead of cheering you on they sometimes try to sabotage your efforts or place doubt in your head.  They are people who want to see you fail not because they hate you but because you really remind them of the choices they haven't made for themselves.  You remind them of the fact they haven't made choices that lead to a healthier and happier self... and while the changes we make for our physical health are important they are but a small part of the big picture.  Behind all the fat is where the real work lies and it self reflects on how we do or don't take care of ourselves physically.  Shedding the toxicity in your life and surrounding yourself with people who support you and whom you support as well can be difficult at times.  Change is never easy but it's always worth it.  Positive energy breeds on itself.

A friend of mine posted a quote on Facebook from Jennifer Hudson's book.  I love it and I hope you do as well:



"For all those doubters, haters, and excuse-makers out there--listen up because I have something to say. Hear this loud and clear. I am completely in charge of choices I make about what i am doing to lose weight and get healthy. And you know what? WE ALL HAVE THIS POWER. Dont be angry with me for something good I've done for myself. Be angry with yourself for not having the courage to do the same in your own life. At the end of the day, you're not hurting me....you're hurting yourself. So, stop pointing the finger at everyone else. Stop making excuses why you 'cant'. And start taking action. The same frame of mind that is keeping you from doing it is the mind that will help you to achieve what you want to do."


Making the first step to change your life for the better can be scary.  I find it's so easy to come up with excuses...."I can't because....", or "Now isn't a good time because...".  Choose yourself and as they say on the airplane "put your oxygen mask on first before you help the person sitting next to you".  Without it you won't be around to care for the people you love. We think we can't help ourselves because we need to be there for everyone else. In the end we are ultimately really robbing our loved ones of our best self.  We are also shortening the time we have with them in the end and actually making it so we can't be there for our loved ones.  Isn't being with and surrounding ourselves with those we love really what it's all about?

2 comments:

  1. Just wanted to say hello! Thank you for your blog...I just found it this weekend while surfing for feedback on Weight Watchers. I'm at the end of my first week, and I'm optimistic. I've read many of your posts, and I appreciate the candor and openness around the battle of losing weight/changing a lifestyle. Cheers to you...and I will continue reading often for inspiration. :)

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  2. Thank you Nicole for reading my blog and posting your comments. I enjoy Being able to share my experience with others going through much the same. It's never always easy but in the end it's always worth it.
    Cheers!

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